You Don’t Have to Disappear to Be Loved
Published on: 01/08/2025
You’ve made yourself easy to love—by being accommodating, helpful, selfless. But what if love that requires your self-abandonment isn’t love at all?
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You’ve made yourself easy to love—by being accommodating, helpful, selfless. But what if love that requires your self-abandonment isn’t love at all?
When your worth has been praised through your usefulness, it’s easy to confuse love with labor. But you are not here just to serve. You’re here to be.
At some point, silence felt safer. Maybe someone talked over you. Maybe you were punished for honesty. Maybe being agreeable kept you protected. But your voice was never the problem—it’s the part of you that’s ready to return.
You’ve polished every edge, filtered every feeling, and still—acceptance feels fragile. That’s because perfection doesn’t create love. It only hides your need for it.