The Measuring Stick Was Never Yours: Undoing the Lie of “Not Enough”

There’s a lie that doesn’t shout.
It whispers.
It sneaks into your thoughts when you're tired, tender, or just being human.

“You’re not enough.”

Not good enough.
Not strong enough.
Not thin, smart, spiritual, successful enough.

It’s a shapeshifter—showing up in your parenting, your work, your body, your relationships.

And the worst part?
It feels so familiar that you start to think it must be true.

But what if the problem isn’t you—it’s the measuring stick?

Who decided what “enough” even means?
Was it a parent who praised perfection but never presence?
A culture that profits off your self-doubt?
A voice inside that keeps moving the goalposts?

Here’s what I want to say plainly:

You are not lacking.
You are not a project.
You are already whole.

This doesn’t mean there’s nothing to grow into.
But growth from shame only creates more shame.
Healing begins with compassion.

Ask yourself:

• What standards am I unconsciously chasing?
  

• Who gains when I believe I’m not enough?
  

• What would shift if I chose to believe I already have what I need within me?

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are not less.

You are already enough.

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