You Are Not the Problem—You Are a Person

Some lies don’t shout.
They whisper.
And this one speaks in your own voice:

“This happened because of me.”
“If I were better, they’d stay.”
“I ruin everything.”

You don’t just carry the pain of what happened—you carry the blame for it.

This lie often begins when you’re young and don’t have language for dysfunction.
When you’re hurt by someone you trust, the easiest way to make sense of it is to believe, “It must be me.”

And that belief becomes a blueprint.
It follows you into adulthood, into relationships, into moments of failure or conflict.
You stop separating your actions from your identity.

But here’s the quiet truth:
You are not the problem. You are a person with pain, with patterns, with a story.

That story deserves compassion, not condemnation.
You’ve made mistakes—but that doesn’t make you a mistake.

You are not broken. You are becoming.

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